The productive spouse
Forget love! I am completely serious.

Take a look at your partner. What got you to them? What were you looking for? I looked for happiness. What did it get me?

There is this longstanding myth that love can conquer all. It is completely and totally not true when it comes to marriage. Marriage is a job. There is no other way to describe it. Face it, folks, you could fall in love with lots of people who fit the right criteria. Enough time around them and you will become enamored. Enough kissing, enough flirting, enough conversation....and the sale is made. But what gets things farther than that?

Let’s arrange a situation. You are ten years into marriage. For the last two years neither of you has had a job. You have the standard two or three kids. Mortgage, car notes. Every single day is stressful. You know what gets you through? Production.

My husband has an enormous work ethic. His work is actually much more powerful than mine. He can get lots of things done in a small amount of time, and usually he sometimes does not enjoy himself in the process. I on the other hand, just sits with the computer Monday through Friday trying to make ends meet. Why did I marry him?

He had a listening ears even before we started dating, he can go any length to see others happy, he can not stand the fact that others are hungry, it gets to him to see a man lazy. but above all this advantages, he has his own vices too. He complains a lot. You must have strained yourself out before you can satisfy him.
What really got us together is that we both realized that neither one of us would give up on OURSELVES. Not each other. Neither one of us would make a bad choice about OUR OWN SITUATIONS. That is key. If your partner does not take the right steps to upkeep their life....folks.....you are not going to be happy soon.

Guys...we just want to enjoy life. Being close to Jesus and fellowship and worship and blessings and family is great! But if you want to figure out the key to a great relationship, find someone who wants to work hard and succeed, regardless of whether or not they are with you.

Without self-respect, no relationship can truly flourish. Ask Jesus....He’ll tell you the same thing.